Essential Steps For Body/Mind Balance

This  post is a reprint from a wonderful article on the essential nature of balance by Katherine Zimmerman who is an internationally known writer and speaker  as well as the Director of the California Hypnotherapy Academy:

‘As a culture we are hell-bent on accomplishing tasks, aren’t we?  We strive to be more productive, to book a few more activities, to achieve one more goal, see one more movie , read all the books that we can….it’s just endless.’

‘We are too often overbooked, overwhelmed, overworked and rushing from one activity to another, completely ignoring our inner needs.  We can keep up that pace for quite awhile but eventually there is a price to pay.’

‘Before I moved to San Diego  I was working six and one-half days a week, every week for several years.  I was attempting to make enough money to cover my overhead and provide myself with an income. it was exhausting.  I felt as if I was dancing as fast as I could , but never fast enough.’

‘Naturally, when I arrived her I decided to take four months off to rest up and get settled.  I ended up taking a year and four months off.  And that’s what I mean when I say there is a price to pay.’

‘So here are some ideas that you may wish to incorporate into you life to help you live a more balanced life.’

‘For your mental health , practice meditation or self hypnosis.  Just 15 minutes a day will make a significant difference.  Even if you have to wake up 15 minutes earlier to fit this in, it will be worth it.’

‘To enhance your emotional health, spend time with people you love. Reach out and connect with like-minded friends and family.  They really are just a phone call away.’

‘Physical bodies love to stretch. Did you know that even five minutes of yoga breathing and stretches will help you to feel more comfortable in your body?  I bought a DVD on chair yoga a few years ago.  Now I do my stretches while the water heats for my morning tea.  And I think that is the key: lock your new activity to something else that you do daily.’

‘As for your spiritual health,  connect in whatever way fits into your belief system, but connect.  Whether you’re connecting with your inner self, Source, God, or nature, make that connection part of your daily routine.’

‘Since I wrote this article I have followed my own suggestions .  I was already doing most of it but still working every other waking minute.   I’m more committed now to allowing myself to just be.  Be still. Be open. Be receptive. Be present.’

‘The result? I live a more serene , peaceful and yet still productive live .  Perhaps more productive since when I do work I am full present.  Do I stay in this mindset all day every day ? No, I don’t.  But it is easier now to return to it when I wander off track.’

‘What small change can you make today to bring your life back into balance?’

How to Transform Fear

Through my personal and professional experience, I have seen how many of us get pulled into negativity and fear.   This comes about through our negative, critical thoughts and our reactions to events and others.

So how can we keep our minds in a more positive state?  How can we think positive thoughts and experience positive emotions no matter what is happening within or around us?  Where do these negative/fearful patterns come from?   If you believe in reincarnation, you might have the understanding that we all bring to this lifetime thoughts and patterns from other existences.  From things that have happened to us and difficult events that have had a significant impact upon us.  When something triggers these old patterns, you may become fearful and desperate to heal them.   These patterns keep recurring so that they can be transformed.  Things occur over and over again so that finally we can heal them.

Thus, we need to find the positive part of Self in order to heal ; finally heal those old negative, fearful patterns.   There are things we can do to heal and transform them and  I wish to share some of those ways with you.

Within each us, at our very core, lies our Higher Self or True Self.   This part of ourselves is very wise, loving, peaceful, compassionate, and forgiving.  It is also known as the ‘crown jewel state’ because our Higher Self can create true Spiritual healing power.  When we go to this place within ourselves, then it is impossible to maintain  these negative, fearful thoughts and feelings.  Thus, it is very important to  reach and connect to this  core as often as possible ——which leads most likely to the next question:  How do we get to this core of Self?

One way of doing it is through meditation or self hypnosis.   As a hypnotherapist , I can share a wonderful quick process to do self hypnosis and begin to transform fear and negativity.   The first step is to lie down or sit down in a comfortable position , close your eyes and begin to breathe in slowly and exhale deeply five times.  Then raise your index finger and put it down ; next count backwards slowly from 5 to 1.  Then, put your thumb and index finger together and say silently ” I am deeply relaxed.”   While in this deeply relaxed state you can reach that core of yourself, your Higher Self, True Self.   You can then become the witness to your fears and negativity.   You have the ability here to step back, detach and see these fears from this Higher perspective.  As you become aware of these fearful thoughts, see if you can just allow them and become aware of your ability to transform them.  You can do this with a special type of breathing; breathe into the issue , allow it and notice how it feels inside of you.  And as you exhale, you breathe it out.  You break it up into tiny little molecules and you disperse it or dissolve it into the universe, into the cosmos.  And you do this as many times as you need to or want to.  a nice deep breath in, exhale it out .  Break it up into tiny little molecules and send it out to the universe and disperse it.  Then ask your Higher Self for some Wisdom , what would it like for you to know about these feelings or situation?   What could you do that would help you to heal this?    When you are ready to emerge into a wide awake , fully alert state simply count from 1 to 5 , open your eyes and reorient to your surroundings.

As you are in the process of releasing fear and negativity, you may tell yourself, “No , i am not going to do that.  I am not going to think that way any longer.  I am not having that kind of thinking in my life anymore.”  And you can put your thumb and index finger together and say, ” I am free of fear, I am healing myself now.”

It is very  important for us to honor our feelings , not push them away but please pay attention to them. As the old adage says ; “What we resist, persists.”   So, please pay attention to them, connect to Higher Self through self hypnosis, and  allow, experience,  explore , examine, reframe and release those fearful feelings.

All of our feelings wish to be honored, they wish to be invited in and explored and healed.  As the great Sufi poet Rumi  once said: ” Invite everyone in.  All your feelings, your fear, your anger , your grief.  Invite them in to sit around the table with you.  Who knows , they may be gifts from beyond.”

So please pay attention to your  negative , fearful thoughts and feelings.  When you pay attention to them, they automatically shift.  That is the first step —–then you may explore and heal through self hypnosis and connecting to the Wise True Self who always has great wisdom and answers.  You may reinforce your healing through making that simple connection between the thumb and index finger and say: “I am free of fear, I am healing myself now.”  As you continue to connect to your Higher Self, you step back and go into a higher reality in which the potential for transformation is very great —-leading you to the healing you so deserve and desire.

Mansion with Many Rooms Meditation

My very good friend, Chris Morris, created this beautiful meditation.  It reminds us that we are Spiritual beings having a human existence.  That our Purpose is to reconnect to the core of who we truly are. Knowing that at this core lies great wisdom, power, resources and truth.  We need only tap into that True Self in order to connect to our Beauty, our Gifts and our Worth:

“My energy system is a beautiful mansion with many rooms.  Through many lifetimes , I have created rooms with the raw material of my life experience.  These rooms contain my gifts, talents, challenges and fears.  These rooms are furnished in styles from many different historical periods and they are not necessarily cohesive.  When I am standing in one isolated room, it’s sometimes hard to imagine that the other rooms exist.  I don’t have a clear sense of the layout of the mansion, and there’s no way to navigate easily between the rooms.

The purpose of this lifetime is to reclaim and connect and appreciate these rooms.  This is my lifetime for healing and reclamation and discovering my authentic purpose.  I am the decorator of this house , and god is the architect.  I surrender to God’s blueprint even when I’m unable to see it clearly.

I now open the doors and windows of this mansion to the light of my Higher Self, the self that is one with God.  As the light pours through windows and doors, I can see more clearly the beauty of the rooms and the possibilities for them.  I can see where the new hallways ( neural pathways) can be created to enhance connections.  I can build new doorways and clean out dusty corners.  I see where the light wants to go and follow it.  It is up to me to integrate these rooms, to claim all this richness, and to create in this world.

The only thing I have to fear is the untransformed fear and trauma from past experiences.  My power lies in the now.  I have access to unbelievable resources of knowledge, wisdom, gifts and talents.  As I connect my inner world , my outer world becomes more connected and cohesive.  I no longer feel like I have split personalities –that is: one at work, one at home and with friends.  I Am who I Am who I Am. This is my house.  All of this abundance is mine.  I now manifest my tremendous creativity in ways that are fulfilling , satisfying, and purposeful.  The more I share, the more rich I become.

I integrate my head and my heart, who I am at work, and who I am at home.  I enjoy being physical as much as being spiritual.  I enjoy alone time and I enjoy time with others.  I love being an ordinary person who deeply appreciates her life.  I bless my house with laughter that rings from room to room and floor to floor.

I am more and more powerful as I use “and” instead of “or.”  I release polarities and embrace the incredible richness of who I am.  I am whole and perfect.  I release fears/ghosts and I open to more richness and beauty.  Nothing needs to be added to my house.  It’s about enhancing connections and flow.

I am a mansion with many rooms.

Amen and So Be It.

Trust the Spirit Within

During his incredible life, Dr. Wayne Dyer helped us to look at ourselves as eternal beings traveling a long road through eternity.  In the following parable, he used humor to emphasize this point and to remind us of the Loving Source who gave us life:

Conversation in the womb: a parable of life after delivery

by Dr. Wayne Dyer


In a mother’s womb were two babies. One asked the other: “Do you believe in life after delivery?” The other replied, “Why, of course.  There has to be something after delivery.  Maybe we are here to prepare ourselves for what we will be later.”


“Nonsense”said the first.  “There is no life after delivery. What kind of life would that be.?”

The second said, “I don’t know, but there will be more light than here.  Maybe we will walk with our legs and eat from our mouths.  Maybe we will have other senses that we can’t understand now.”

The First replied, “That is absurd. Walking is impossible. And eating with our mouths? Ridiculous! the umbilical cord supplies nutrition and everything we need.  But the umbilical cord is so short.  Life after delivery is to be logically excluded.”

The second insisted, “Well I think there is something and maybe it’s different than it is here.  Maybe we won’t need this physical cord anymore.”

The first replied, “Nonsense.  And moreover if there is life, then why has no one ever come back from there? Delivery is the end of life, and in the after-delivery there is nothing but darkness and silence and oblivion. It takes us nowhere.”

“Well , I don’t know,” said the second, “but certainly  we will meet Mother and she will take care of us.”

The first replied “Mother? you actually believe in Mother? that’s laughable.  If Mother exists then where is she now?”

The second said, “She is all around us.  We are surrounded by her.  We are of Her.  It is in Her that we live.  Without Her this world would not and could not exist.”

Said the first: “Well I don’t see Her, so it is only logical that She doesn’t exist.”

To which the second replied,”Sometimes, when you’re in silence and you focus and you really listen, you can perceive Her presence , and you can hear Her loving voice, calling down from above.”

I hope enjoyed this parable and it helped to look at self as an eternal being.  Please visit Youtube for a free mediation on “Trusting the Spirit Within.”  The link to my meditation is:     Namaste

Yoga Nidra

The Process of Yoga Nidra takes us into a very deep state of relaxation.  As we know, deep relaxation is an excellent remedy for stress, anxiety, work pressures, and emotional upheavals.


Although it’s mentioned in old tantric texts, Yoga Nidra was rediscovered about 20 years ago in eastern India by Swami Satyananda Saraswati.  He translates Yoga Nidra as psychic sleep and describes it is a systematic method of inducing complete physical, mental, and emotional relaxation, while maintaining awareness at the deeper levels.


There is a purpose of each phase of this practice, a study of neurophysiology teaches us that each part of the body has a different control center in the brain ——small ones such as the fingers claim a large brain area.  Moving awareness through different part of the body not only relaxes them, but also clears nerve pathways to the brain.


The suggestions to alternate opposite sensations such as heat and cold, heaviness and lightness improve the body’s ability to regain balance and brings the related involuntary functions under conscious control.


Visualization uses symbols or images as a catalyst to provoke a reaction in the subconscious mind.  But since no time is given in this process for the conscious mind to react, you remain detached and the ego becomes temporarily inactive.  This phase helps to resolve suppressed conflicts, desires, memories and sanskaras,  the deep impressions that are the driving force behind Karma.


In each session, you also repeat a sankalpa or resolve.  Simply make a short statement, phrased in positive language and in the present tense.  For example, your resolve could be: “I love myself completely.” The resolve gets embedded in the subconscious , effectively shifting your current reality.


Yoga Nidra accesses subconscious level of the mind that’s underneath even the processing, fantasizing, and imaging level of the mind.


In my researchI learned that Meditation and Yoga Nidra work together, as companion practices, to purify the deepest levels of the mind, and expand conscious states to include what was previously buried in the subconscious.  Finally, the expansion includes the realization of the pure consciousness that permeates all of the levels.


I will be recording a Yoga Nidra process very soon so that you may experience the benefits of this practice.



Easter Weekend

I came across the following quote today and thought it was perfect for this Easter weekend.  It reminds us that we can be transformed by the renewing of our minds.  Also, it connects us to the knowing that at our very center is peace, hope, joy and love.  To revel in the understanding that as we set aside the ego and all its concerns, we connect to Higher Self.   Thus, we are transported beyond our perceived limitations and into a world filled with our greatest desires and hopes:

“Easter is not a time for groping through dusty, musty, tomes or tombs to disprove spontaneous generation or even to prove life eternal.   It is a day to fan the ashes of dead hope, a day to banish doubt and to seek the slopes where the sun is rising, to revel in the faith which transports us out of awareness and the dead past into the vast and inviting unknown.” ~ Author Unknown, as quoted in the Lewiston Tribune.mswp_ReleasingAngerResentment

Relax and Renew

Today  I read the following quote by  Judith Hansen Lasater: “Taking time out each day to relax and renew is essential to living well.”    When I read this quote, I thought once again of how essential it is to reduce the stress in our lives.  To become aware that we have the power within us to take back control of our lives , in order to relax and  to renew our minds with positive and uplifting thoughts and ideas.

I wanted to list a few techniques and principles that will help to reduce stress and bring forth what you desire in your life:

Focus on what you want~ Specific or general.  Remember to focus on you want and not what you don’t want, as your mind focuses on expands and will bring your either, depending on which one you  focus on.


Repeat what you want over and over to yourself ~ and focus on it all the time–or as often as you are able.  You do not want or need to tell anyone else.  Keep this in concentrated form.


Create a strong desire for what you want ~ as this will increase the intensity of your thoughts and focus.


Speak to yourself in positive words ~ indicating that you are anticipating excellent results.


Create visual symbols of what you are creating for your life ~ these can be inner visualizations or outer forms.  Create them to be as lively and colorful as you like.


Make a special notebook of your dreams and wishes ~ It is good to have it written down, but any form will do.  Write down anything you aspire to or would like to have.


Do a “mirror technique’ ~ with yourself by looking into your own eyes while looking into a mirror.  Repeat your powerful , positive phrase while looking into your own eyes.  Louise Hay author of the book: “You Can Heal Your Life.”   Relays that the mirror technique is very powerful and she has used it for decades to manifest what she desires for her life.  It is especially powerful in reducing stress and anxiety and bringing forth thoughts and feelings of calmness and serenity.


Imagine there is a dimmer switch in your mind ~ begin by closing your eyes and taking a deep breath.  Imagine there is a room in your mind with a dimmer switch, this switch can slow down or turn off your thoughts.  Locating the switch and when you are ready, turn the switch down or off completely.   Knowing that you alone control the switch and can turn it back on whenever you like.   As you feel calmer, imagine that you have a calm, still lake in the center of your body.  A peaceful , clear lake filled with fresh , still water.  Let yourself feel calm and still as this lake.  Pause for as long as you like .  When you are ready to return , simply turn your switch back on and slowly open your eyes.


As you do the above techniques, you  begin to take back control of your life, learning how to relax your body and mind.  Manifesting what you desire for you life and bringing it forth into every aspect of your life in very powerful and positive ways.




Protecting Your Energy

Many times we think of protecting our home, cars, valuables and so on yet we do not think of protecting our energy.  This is why we may often feel drained after speaking to a loved one who is ‘needy’ or after being in a crowded mall and other public places. We do not realize that others are unconsciously ‘plugging’  into our energy. We arrive home feeling exhausted and drained yet unsure as to why we feel this way.  Thus, it is very important that we cleanse our energetic field and ‘plug in’ to refill our depleted stores.

One way to cleanse our home, work environment or even car after a long day is through saging. You can purchase a sage stick (also known as ‘smudging’) to burn or you can purchase ‘smokeless ‘ sage that is misted.  Sage cleanses your environment so that you do not pick up the negative energy. It is important to go into corners with the sage stick or spray.  If burning sage, please open a window for proper ventilation and also be careful extinguishing it afterwards.  So when saging, go into each corner and even behind doors , starting in the lowest level of the house as you say whatever prayer is most meaningful to you.

In order to ‘plug in’ and replenish ourselves , it is also important to be centered and grounded. You can imagine a grounding cord that starts at the base of your spine and traveling all the way down into the center of the earth. Then release down the grounding cord, all drain, worry, fear, anxiety, stress, unfinished projects, anyone pulling at your energy etc.  Breathe slowly and deeply as you do this and then Imagine the grounding cord is flexible and goes with you throughout the day.  In this way, you continually release down the grounding cord any negativity and pull up the nourishing energy of the earth through the cord.

Finally, after cleansing and grounding , it is important to shield ourselves.  This can be done in many ways, you can imagine a bubble of white light surrounding you, or a golden net which allows only positive energy to flow in or out.  Or perhaps a column of white light that surrounds you completely.  In this way, you can go about your day and feel the protection of this Divine White Light.  It provides a sense of boundaries so that your energy is not drained by others.  You will feel more energetic and able to love others even more as you come from this place of feeling centered, grounded, protected and safe.

Thursday’s Thoughts

Thomas Szasz  in “Personal Conduct,”  The Second Sin,  1973  stated: “People often say that this or that person has not yet found himself.  But the self is not something one finds, it is something one creates.”

As a therapist specializing in hypnotherapy, I do believe the self is ‘something one creates.’  As the client relaxes deeply in hypnosis,  the critical factor of the mind is set aside so that one can focus deeply on the healing suggestions.  Hypnosis is a very subtle tool and works by changing attitudes , beliefs, habits and perceptions.  Whether experiencing hypnosis during a private session or through listening to hypnosis recordings, one begins to create the True Self that lies within.    This place of creation is one that can be returned to again and again , at any time , in order to find your deepest resources and strengths.  Creating a Self that can relax into life , to easily cope with the ups and downs that are part of normal life.  Creating a Self that feels safe, secure and ease as you go about your daily life.


Through the proper use of hypnosis, one can promote feelings of well-being, achieve goals, release any negative thoughts, experiences and beliefs from the past so they no longer control one’s life in the present.  During the experience of hypnosis, one is being guided within to  a journey of self-discovery and healing.   Leading to the creation of  the True Self within and simultaneously beginning to create an external life filled with peace, serenity, harmony and truth.    It is a journey each of us deserves to take as it leads to the creation of who we truly are and the experience of great joy in that discovery.












Monday’s Musings

As Anais Nin once stated: “There comes a time when the risk to remain tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”   I think of this quote quite often as I witness my lovely clients traverse their healing journeys.   Many times, they describe the transition period as having ‘one foot in each world.’  It is too painful to return to to the old outdated ways of thinking/doing, yet the new  way is not familiar and may appear risky.  However, through the use of hypnosis, this journey becomes more comfortable as hypnosis is a very subtle tool.   It works by changing attitudes, beliefs, habits and perceptions.  Thus, very gently one begins to step into the is new way of being, step by step.   Allowing the subconscious to open just as a blossom opens to the rays of the sun.   Removing those painful blocks to growth and beginning to build upon wonderful resources and strengths which had always been within.   Bringing forth this healing into all aspects of their daily lives in ways that are very safe, appropriate and comfortable.   They discover that the ‘blossoming’ into who they really are is definitely worth it.  It is a journey each Soul deserves to take as the path leads to the opening to one’s Path, Purpose and Passion.